Masturbation

Masturbation is touching and rubbing your penis or clitoris, vulva and breasts usually to the point of orgasm using hands, fingers, everyday objects, sex toys or combinations of these.

Occurrence

Masturbation is very common and frequent in humans of both sexes and all ages. Studies show that about 7 out of 10 adult men and more than 5 out of 10 adult women masturbate. It’s also common for children and teens to masturbate. In fact, 95% of males and 89% of females admit that they have masturbated.

Our Focus

Solo Masturbation is a sexual activity in which one person stimulates his/her sex organs to orgasm.

Common Reasons For Masturbation 

•Unavailability of sex partner

•inability of to provide enough sexual satisfaction or help a partner achieve orgasm through intercourse

•relieve sexual tension

•achieve sexual pleasure

Benefits

Mutual masturbation comes with some benefits. For solo masturbation the risks supersedes any benefits therein.

 Risk With Solo Masturbation

1. Masturbation doesn't have the health benefits that sex does.

Study after study shows that solo masturbation does not provide healing that intercourse does to your blood pressure, heart and prostate health.

2. Independency

Many women as well as men find pleasure in gratifying themselves alone. Solo masturbation is against the basic rule for marriages that all your sex, including fantasies, should be with each other. It is a problem if it becomes a substitute for real sex. This has crashed relationships and marriages.

3. Masturbation is not risk-free.

Frequent or rough masturbation can cause minor skin irritation. Forcefully bending an erect penis can rupture the chambers that fill with blood, a rare but gruesome condition called penile fracture. Most men had needed surgery to repair it. Post orgasmic illness syndrome (POIS) has also been linked to masturbation. Common mental symptoms include cognitive dysfunction, intense discomfort, irritability, anxiety, craving for relief, susceptibility to nervous system stresses (e.g. common cold), depressed mood, and difficulty communicating, remembering words, reading and retaining information, etc

4. There's no "normal" amount of masturbation.

Compulsive masturbation is like any behavior that disrupts your life

5. Solo Masturbation is a sign something is wrong in your relationship. You cannot get things done normally and have to resort to an abnormal way.

Self Help - What to do

1. Avoid sitting on your bed. Use a table/chair, and always sit with other people.

2. When the urge is very intense take a cold shower! It is not only shown to calm the mind but have many other benefits to overall health and energy.

3. Think about your family or anyone else and if they were watching you.

4. When you feel the need to masturbate, take a brisk walk or jog. Always try to occupy yourself when the urge arises.

5. Exercise more and get out of the house. This is a great way to take your mind off everything.

6. Try fasting. Abstain from food or drink in a few hours everyday can distract your mind from sexual urge. Fasting will also act as a diet from stimulating food or drink for a certain period. If you do it regularly you will have better control upon your urge.

7. Take your mind off it with (non-sexual) music.

8. Set tiny goals for yourself, start with going 3 days clean, the third day is the speed bump, get past that and you KNOW that you're committed. Then go a week, then 10 days, then two weeks, then 17 days, etc.

9. Do exercise daily in the evening, this will make you tired at night. And since masturbation is often done at night, so when you are exhausted, you will give preference to sleep not to masturbation.

10. If you come upon a certain thought, urge, or your lustful thoughts come into your mind, immediately think about a different topic such as baseball, football, etc.

11. Find an activity to engage your time and energy when the urge comes. Start writing, learn to play a musical instrument, paint, draw, or do whatever else makes you feel like you're doing something productive. Play Sports or any form of exercise will help you relieve tension, feel happier, and to make you focus on your physicality in a positive way. Find a new hobby, or cultivate a skill like cooking, baking, public speaking, or gardening. Volunteer your time to helping others, and you'll have less time to stray from your goals.

12. Limit your solitude. If you masturbate frequently because you feel lonely, find ways to be as socially engaged as possible. This means that you should join as many clubs or activities as you can, accept and give more invitations to people, and go out of your way to make more friends. If you want to date someone, consider asking a friend to set you up or join an online dating site.

13. Stop watching porn on your computer. One of the reasons you may be masturbating so much is that you know that you can access porn within seconds if you want to. However, if you don't have the willpower to stop looking at the porn on your own, then you may have to take other measures to get the job done:

14. Be persistent and patient. Stopping a masturbation addiction requires commitment, and you might make mistakes or relapse on occasions. The real struggle is persevering, so commit now that you won't let little mistakes stand in your way.

Who to see/where to go

Know when to seek help. If you've tried everything and just can't seem to get your addiction under control, it might be time to tell someone else about your problem and ask for assistance. Don't feel ashamed, and remember that many people have similar problems like an addiction. Seeking help is a brave action, and most people you ask will see it as such.

Ask your religious leader for guidance. Request a private appointment with your pastor, bishop, imam, rabbi, or other religious leader, and see if his or her advice can help you.

Make an appointment with a medical professional. Counselors, psychologists and psychiatrists are all trained to help people with varying levels of addiction. Start by seeing a therapist in your area, who can assess your addiction and refer you to more specialized help if necessary. Several treatment options are available, from cognitive-behavior therapy to medication.

In Conclusion

If you have the faith that you can really find a way to stop your masturbation addiction, then you'll be able to do it. Maybe your goal isn't to stop masturbating completely, but just to limit your masturbation to a healthy amount, such as once or twice a day. That's perfectly fine, too. If you have the belief that you really can win this battle, you'll be much more likely to succeed than if you're constantly second-guessing yourself.